I thought (as my stupid self many times does) that this was pretty obvious and clear. The idea or fact – that one becomes what one practices, or – if you don’t use it you lose it. If you don’t maintain your car it rusts and breaks down, if you do not water a flower it withers and dies. If one does not engage in the adventure of life, you also whiter away. But unfortunately it isn’t always obvious and clear, not for you, not for me and not for many others. We forget, we stand in our way or we follow the crowd.  

 

In the article “How Personal Development Promotes Positive Mental Health” from the UK college for personal development Tony Nutley writes about things that are beneficial for people who want to live a more healthy life. He writes about self-awareness, social-relationships, stress management and goal setting. He cites 17 different studies in this article. Very impressive, and very academic. He is very clear that these things are not health advice and you should always go to a “proffessional” even if he maybe should.

It seems to me many have forgotten the truth of the human condition. That this life if it is not well managed, and even still will be filled with hard times. And that is the price for your gift of being and your ability to choose. Yes, a little bit complicated at times, but we together are equipped with the tools that’s required to flourish. 

 

Every person has met one, two or fifty people who still live in memories of the former glory of their youth. Many are convinced that they still possess the skill which they did before they gave up. Yes, gave up. Before they got overwhelmed by the forces of life and got stuck in their ways and the struggles of the day to day. Being convinced how the world did this to them, and they slowly died.

But no worries, this doesn’t have to be you. Furthermore, it’s not supposed to be. The human-being are meant to grow. The essence of your being will always drive you forward, if you listen to it, and it even demands it. If you ever wondered why you don’t feel well in yourself it´s a good indication that you have neglected this force from within you. It is a multitude of things that can stand in its way, and is hard to navigate.

 

And If you have forgotten the fact that you are a being meant for growth and life, i want to remind you. You exist, you have a life force which is the same as for the flowers that grow outside my window. Relax, find back to yourself, set goals, give to others and reflect on how you can be better. Then you will fail, or maybe succeed, however, we do it again and then again. 

 

Sit for a moment, and ask yourself – How have I not allowed myself to grow?